Anonymous asked: How can you tell if a girl likes you? (a lesbian girl, if that helps. And i'm also lesbian, but she doesnt know)

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I’m a girl (I’m straight, but most of my girl-friends are bi/lesbians), so I hope I can kinda help with this. Look for things like:

-Catching her looking at you frequently (and maybe looking away as soon as she sees you look back if she’s shy)

-Making excuses to talk to you

-Flirting (which can be subtle, or not)

-Constantly joking with you

-Frequently complementing you

-Wanting to generally be around you, even if she’s not necessary with you.

-Touching you

Make sure she knows you are also lesbian, so if she does like you she probably wont be hesitant about asking you out or at least admitting her feelings for you! Good luck and I hope this helps!

Anonymous asked: so, tomorrow I'm going to Texas to visit my Aunt, along with my Gramma, two cousins and my other aunt. it's supposed to be 70s and 80s, so i'll be wearing shorts. but i have a bunch of scars on my thigh. I'm not sure how i would go about either hiding them, or just telling everyone. my parents don't know, and I don't want them to. so. help me please?

Answer:

If you’re a guy, then just make sure your shorts are long. Im kinda guessing you are a girl though.

Im not much of a fashion expert for girls, but is it still “a thing” to wear tights under your shorts? You could do that. Or wear longer shorts. Or wear a skirt that covers them up :) Worst case scenario you just wear jeans and say you feel more confident/comfortable in pants. Idk if Im much help, but I hope things go well :)

-Linden

Anonymous asked: So there is this guy I really like and he really likes me too, we text all the time (a friend gave him my number) and everything and we have both told each other that we really do like each other but he's extremely shy and is too shy to talk to me in real life. I'm too scared to talk to him as well though, we're both really shy. He is from another country and is scared that his English is really bad and that he will make a fool on himself in front of me. How do we break the ice if we're soo shy?

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Maybe if you reassure him that his English is fine and that you really like him and you could just try and build the relationship up a bit more through texts so you can both feel more comfortable and less shy and maybe then you could make the first move like even do skype calls or something maybe so you can get used to talking face to face kinda and hopefully the shyness will ware off :)

-Laura 

Anonymous asked: So my mom constantly tells me that i always go to the "fringe" of society because no "normal" people will like me. I mean, i'm a girl that generally looks mainstream, but i have a lot of friends in the LGBTQ community, who have body mods, etc, and i am in those same communities i guess. I keep feeling so bad because she always tells me that who i am is bad, and that im not normal, that no one likes me, and i can feel somewhere inside me, i believe it. But its not true. What do i do?

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I think maybe just talk to your mum about your friends and who you hang out with and try to get her to see them from your point of view but don’t let what she says get to you as long as you have good friends and you know you do then thats fine and it doesn’t matter what kind of community of people, i hope that helps :)

-Laura 

Anonymous asked: This is kinda more intended for Kaitlyn, because i saw your involved in lgbt stuffs. I think i'm straight, but i have sorta developed feelings for this one girl. She's a teacher and about 9 years older than me so it would never work out anyway, though i know she's a lesbian. but my main question is: am i lesbian or bi if i've only ever had feelings for her? i normally only have crushes on guys.

Answer:

To answer your main question; it is possible that your a lesbian or bi (probably *if anything* bi from what you’ve told me), but some say there are exceptions. Meaning, it’s possible to have feelings for one person of the same sex, but still be “straight” so to speak. You may get over this crush eventually and go back to only being attracted to guys, or you may find out otherwise. Sometimes it takes a while to discover who you are, but you will :) I havent really been asked this question before, so this is a little new to me, but i really hope that answered your question! I’m actually an extremely similar situation right now, just not quite with a teacher, so i’m trying to answer this from my perspective at least! This is a tough one, even for me who is going through just about the same..  

If you do later find out you are bi/lesbian and continue to have feelings for this teacher once your out of school (and legal, just so theres no legal issues here :3) you can always act upon your feelings once you are out of high school and ask her out, but i wouldn’t risk her career or anything, but thats just me. You never know :) Well good luck, and just know whatever you turn out to be is totally ok! :) - Kaitlyn

PS, check back, i may add more to this, i had some other things i wanted to add, but my mind is a little scattered tonight!

Anonymous asked: How do I deal with still being friends with an exboyfriend? He told me that he wanted to break up with me because he still likes his ex girlfriend and didn't want to date me while liking her because he would be dishonest. But my friend told me that he told her that he has a list of girls who he wants to go out with and he said "I got one girl down." My ex boyfriend and I have been friends for like the longest time. He's actually a really nice guy but hearing that....just makes me feel like shit.

Answer:

He’s not worth your time. At all. If its true that he wants to be with a whole list of girls its just not worth it. You deserve so much better. As always, you can still be nice to him, and be respectful to him, just know you deserve better and he’s not the one for you. That may not be what you want to here but its probably the best advice i can give. I do give him credit for being up-front with you and saying he still had feelings for this person (or persons), but he’s not someone you should be dating if he has his mind set on someone else. Someone will come along and only have your mind set on you! Just know that! Good luck:) -Kaitlyn

(edit) let me know if that didn’t answer your question so well, i think i read through that a little too fast! 

Anonymous asked: Two of my friends like this guy... they practically talk about nothing but him. I like him too and he likes me back and we're planning on going to party together that my friends will be at... is this a terrible idea? (private please?)

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maybe if you talk to your friends first and make sure they will be okay with it and so it doesnt seem as i you have gone behind there back in some way? but i don’t think it’s a terible idea i you both like each other    and you said private but it’s on anon so i can’t sorry sweetie 

Anonymous asked: I'm going to a party with a guy I like and he joked that I'll have to get a foot tall high heels to be the same size as him. He's 6'2 and I'm 5'3.5. Without heels, how do you think I can cope with stuff like hand holding or dancing? Or am I gonna have to get some 5 inch heels?

Answer:

I think couples (or opposite-sex friends) with major height differences are incredibly cute together! It shouldn’t be difficult with hand holding or dancing, and its cuter when your shorter i think, thats just my opinion! I think you’ll be fine! Good luck! -Kaitlyn

Anonymous asked: Ohhh shooot rejected 6 already?! Damn talk about cool kid on the block over here hahah jk. Yeah definitely meeting someone online is COMPLETELY different from in person. They don't seem ready to be in a relationship if they would settle for being in one with someone they basically don't know lol

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Agreed! And I dont want to hate on anyone that does, but it just feels weird to me I guess? Ya know?

Anonymous asked: I'm sure you weren't! Still don't believe it but hey, you know yourself better than me haha. And you seem so nice and down to earth =) anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend! There's not many genuine people nowadays. Alot of girls must be hollerin at ya if you have to put a warning sign for tumblr gf HAHA but I totally agree with you on that. It's not my thing either, I need to have at least met them before lol

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Haha thanks:3 and just a few girls *cough. Six so far. Cough*
And right? Haha it’s not like really dating, but still. I like to know someone at least a little before that D:
-Linden